The love and relationship of marriage is so
precious and vital to the human family and to God's moral and spiritual
purposes for them that it is secured behind the high walls of a radical
covenant. In our sin and rebellion we have strained against it as if it
were a prison rather than a refuge. The marriage covenant as God has
ordained it is intended not to deny fulfillment but to make it possible,
and to protect the profound joys of marriage against the stupidities of
lust selfishness.
In the waning weeks of Jesus' teaching
ministry his enemies had become increasingly desperate in their efforts
to publicly destroy him. The Pharisees caught him in the territory of
Herod Antipas who had recently divorced his wife in order to marry
Herodias and sought to put him in an embarrassing bind by a question
about the lawfulness of divorce for every cause (Matt. 19:3-9).
It is possible that they were seeking to put Jesus into the same moral
strait that had cost John the Baptist his life, but even more likely
that they simply wanted him impaled between the radical disagreements of
the various Jewish sects. Perhaps, too, having heard what Jesus taught
in his Sermon on the Mount (Matt. 5:32), they were fishing for a
statement so stringent that it would disenchant the masses who had so
far followed him so gladly.
What the Pharisees asked was, "Is it lawful
for a man to put away his wife for every cause?" It was a hotly disputed
question among the rabbinical schools, one made even hotter by the
prevalence of divorce. All based their arguments on Deuteronomy 24,
Shammai declaring the unseemly thing" to be unchastity, Hillel
finding in the same phrase much broader causes, and Akiba, more loosely
than all, resting his case on "if she find no favor in his eyes" (i.e.
see a more beautiful woman). Flavious Josephus characterized the law as
saying, "He that desires to be divorced from his wife for any cause
whatsoever, (and many such causes happen among men,) let him in writing
give assurance that he will never use her as his wife anymore"
(Antiquities, IV, viii, 23).
In his response Jesus makes no reference to
the teaching of the rabbinical schools but takes his inquirers directly
to the Scripture. He first appeals behind Deuteronomy 24 to God's
original intent for marriage "in the beginning" (Gen. 1:27; 2:24;
5:2). God "made them male and female," created the two of them for
marriage, and destined them out of creation for each other.
The Lord's second statement is that they
become one in the closest possible union. "This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh," said Adam (Gen. 2:23), and God said, "For
this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave to
his wife; and the two shall become one flesh" (Matt. 19:5).
It is abundantly clear that Jesus viewed
Genesis 2:24 as a divine ordinance for a life-long union between a
man and a woman. The thrust of what he was quoting from Genesis became
obvious, even to the Pharisees, and his conclusion inevitable: "What
therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder" (Matt. 9:6).
Divorce by its very nature destroys the permanent bond of intimate love
which God intended for every husband and wife.
Jesus had appealed from Deuteronomy to
Genesis. The Pharisees appealed from Genesis to Deuteronomy (Matt.
19:7). If marriage was intended to be so permanent, they said, why
did Moses "command to give a bill of divorcement, and to put her away?"
Jesus "plains Moses' ordinance (Deut. 24) as a concession which
God made to Israel's hardness of heart, and then runs the Pharisees
straight back to Genesis: "but from the beginning it hath not been so.
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for
fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery; and he that
marrieth her when she is put away committeth adultery" (19:8,9).
Their question had been, "Is it lawful to
divorce your wife for every cause?" His answer was, "No, not for any
cause save fornication. All other divorce leads to adultery. That's how
God intended it from the beginning."
In responding to the Pharisees' question
about the lawfulness of divorce for every cause, Jesus spanned the ages.
His answer goes to the very nature of marriage as God first designed it
- not for Jews, or for Gentiles, believers, or unbelievers, but for men
and women of every race and age. The covenant of marriage was given to
man generally and not to Adam and Eve uniquely. It was designed to meet
man's innate need for a mate and to provide a secure haven for the
children of the race to come to birth and be nurtured to maturity. The
union of a man and woman in marriage was to be an intimate fusing of two
personalities into a profound oneness. Jesus, in appealing to Moses'
record of the beginning of things, is answering the Pharisees in terms
of God's original purpose. Marriage, as the product of divine creation,
arises from the holy nature of God and addresses the fixed realities of
the nature of man. It cannot, therefore, be changed at a whim, and any
effort on our part to do so puts us hopelessly at war with both the
nature of God and the nature of the universe he created.
From the beginning, God's rule of men has
been universal (Psa. 22:28) and all men have been expected to
worship and serve him (Psa. 22:27; 96:1,8-9; Acts 17:26-27). The
basis of God's moral rule is his own unchanging righteousness (Psa.
119:137,142; Mal. 3:6). The eternal moral principles governing
marriage and sexual intimacy have been in place "from the beginning." If
for reasons of his own God has suffered some momentary exceptions to
these unchanging principles, those exceptions do not invalidate the
principles. They have come to absolute expression in the universal reign
of Christ (Jn. 1:14,17; 17:2; 28:18). The! Son of God does not
have one set of moral standards by which to rule alien sinners and
another by which to govern saints. His moral expectations for kingdom
citizens represent his expectations for all men. They are the standard
of righteousness to which all men are called. If we submit to Christ
they will guide us (Matt. 7:26), if we reject him they will judge
us (Jn. 12:48; Matt. 7:26). ". . . knowing this, that law is not
made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and unruly, for the unholy
and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for
manslayers, for fornicators, for abusers of themselves with men, for
menstealers, for liars, for false swearers, and if there be any other
things contrary to the sound doctrine: according to the gospel of the
glory of the blessed God" (1 Tim. 1:9-11). God's original design
for marriage and his consequent attitude toward divorce, must then be
normative for men and women of all times.
It is on the issue of universality that the
most serious effort has been made to break the force of Jesus' teaching
on divorce and remarriage. This approach says that Matthew 19:9
applies only to the Christian and not to the unconverted. The fact that
Jesus' words were first spoken in answer to a question asked by
unconverted Jews should raise some serious questions about such a
position. The even more critical fact that Jesus appealed to God's
original and universal marriage law as the foundation for his answer
ought to raise even more doubt. The truth is that the context of
Matthew 19.9 serves to leave the Lord's "whosover" just as universal
as it appears on its face to be. As to the extension in history of God's
original marriage ordinance, Jesus makes clear that what God did "in the
beginning" has been in force "from the beginning." As brother Franklin
Puckett once observed, "On the basis of the fact that we have found this
statement appealed to under every dispensation of time, I conclude that
the law was a universal aspect and in reality was the will of God unto
all men under all ages and dispensations" (The Sower, 12-76).
But, it is argued, a different law of
marriage must have been in effect for everyone after Adam since not only
divorce but even polygamy was tolerated by God in men like Abraham,
David and others. Jesus addressed that issue in his discussion with the
Pharisees and found no difficulty in saying that, whatever God may have
tolerated in the past, that there had never been and would not be any
other answer out of God's will about divorce than that which was given
in the beginning and which he was giving now - for one cause only -
fornication. This is his answer to his detractors, not because they are
Jews but because they are men and subject to the rule of their Creator.
Those who use the aberrant marriage
practices of Old Testament people to prove the existence of what they
imagine to be a separate moral law for those who are not Christians are
yet not willing to receive polygamous marriages into the kingdom of God
though they want to receive the marriages of those who have been
divorced and remarried for every cause. They have yet to explain what
the exact parameters of this second tier marriage covenant is, whether
it authorizes divorce for every cause or certain specified causes,
whether it authorizes only monogamous or both monogamous and polygamous
marriages. This is not an academic question. If their position is true,
only by knowing exactly what God's marriage law to the unsaved is can we
know what relationships ought to be received without question when they
come to the kingdom of Christ. Otherwise, we are acting merely on whim,
not principle.
The central problem of this position is that
at best this other, different, moral law exists only as an inference and
that far from a necessary one. It appears to be a construct borne of the
anguish of a tragic social problem. We are not untouched. Sin ravages.
But for Jesus there never had been nor ever would be any other will of
God for marriage (and divorce) than that which he stated so explicitly
to the Pharisees. We need to rest confidently and trustingly in what the
Lord of our lives has taught us, about his and all other matters.
Guardian of Truth -
January 4, 1990