The
anticipatory words of Jesus, "I will build My church…"
(Mt 16:18)
have lost their luster with a lot of people today. Some in the
denominational world are fed up, discouraged and distracted--and are
quitting. Some are seeing their churches as man-made institutions and
are tiring of leaders marketing to them as though they are consumers.
Others
have come to expect churches to be more like non-profit organizations
and less like religious groups--they easily become dissatisfied and move
on, becoming serial quitters as they frequently shop for a group with
more amenities.
Brethren are often tempted by this trend. The lure of greener grass,
something new and exciting, different relationships, and less structure,
lures them to quit assembling with God's people. And local churches feel
the shrinking numbers and are tempted to respond by trying to meet
people's perceived needs with unlawful activities and unscriptural
teaching.
Christ's church faces an attack from people who want to be spiritual,
but don't want anything to do with a church. They view quitting church
as quitting organized religion, as quitting an outdated organization
which is out of touch with modern life. They want to claim to believe in
a perfect God without the hassle of having to associate with imperfect
people (Christians). They wonder if Jesus had lived today if He would
have said, "I will build my website," or "Just stay home and read my
blog."
Why The Church?
In the
broadest sense, the church is all people who have been purchased by the
blood of Christ (Eph
20:28). Christ adds people to this number when they obey Him and
are saved (Acts
2:38, 47). In this sense, the church exists as an expression of
the collective possession of Christ. Those who say they want nothing to
do with the church are therefore saying they do not want to be one of
the saved. Those who reject all concepts of the church are rejecting
Christ and His sacrifice for them. However, most who reject the church
will say they are leaving the people--they want Christ, but not
"organized religion." It might be said they want to be one of the people
of God, but not physically with others who are His people.
The
word church is also used to describe a group of disciples in a common
location who worship and do spiritual work together
(example: 1 Cor 1:2;
Phil 1:1). Assembling with, working with, and worshipping with
other faithful disciples is Christ's will
(Heb 10:24-25; Ac.
11:26). Disciples may choose with which faithful disciples to
assemble and work
(Acts 9:26). But Christ expects His disciples to be
"…longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep
the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace"
(Eph 4:2-3).
That means the solution to problems, conflicts, and dissatisfaction
isn’t to just leave. Resolving problems, not quitting, is to be a high
priority among disciples because what we do together as Christ’s church
glorifies Him (Eph
3:21) and edifies each other
(Eph 4:16).
Those Who Leave
Most
importantly, quitting must never involve or lead to quitting the Lord.
It often does. Personal desires and goals may make exchanging our souls
by quitting seem worth temporary rewards
(Matt 16:26).
Frustrations, disappointments, and problems involving our lives and
other people must not cause us to abandon Christ and His church.
Ultimately, irreconcilable differences over truth or edification may
cause us to choose to work and worship with different faithful
disciples. Unfortunately, most who leave do so because of hurt feelings,
personalities, certain doctrinal teachings, and disagreements over
matters of opinion. In the heat of problems or in the despair of
discouragement, quitting may seem an easy solution, even what is best.
However, love should unify disciples, making giving up and quitting our
relationships unimaginably painful.
Those Who Stay
Those
left behind often feel hurt, abandoned, and angry. Problems are left
unresolved and some who were involved aren’t even around to help clean
them up. Like Samuel, God has to remind them, "…they have not rejected
you, but they have rejected me"
(1 Sam 8:7).
Pride must give way to sorrow over the breaking of fellowship and the
loss of a soul if in quitting they have left the Lord.
Preachers, elders, teachers and saints would do well to do serious soul
searching when people quit. It isn't right for people to quit, but those
who cause offenses share in the guilt
(Matt 18:7).
Not every quitter's charge is true and not everything they are looking
for can legitimately be supplied by the church, but not all complaints
are false. "Test all things"
(1 Thess 5:21)
God
In the
decision to quit or stay, God is often forgotten. The whole concept of
the church is disdained because of the frailties of man. What is ignored
is that the church is a visible demonstration of the "manifold wisdom of
God" (Eph 3:10). He
adds to the number those who are being saved, but some respond by
saying, "I want to be spiritual, but not linked to anyone else." He
gives His people other disciples with which to work and worship so His
name can be glorified and they can be built up, but some say, "No
thanks! The work required to get along with each other isn't worth it."
We honor God when we value being His church.
God
knows there will be those who go, "…out from us, but they were not of
us; for if they had been of us, they would have continued with us; but
they went out that they might be made manifest, that none of them were
of us" (1 Jn 2:19).
God knows some will quit, whether they realize it or not, because they
simply do not want to be His people as He wills them to be. Continuing
with God's people is His will and to quit His people is to quit Him.
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