In 3 John 9, 10,
we read, "I wrote somewhat unto the church: but Diotrephes, who loveth
to have the preeminence among them, receiveth us not. Therefore, if I
come, I will bring to remembrance his works which he doeth, prating
against us with wicked words; and not content therewith, neither doth he
himself receive the brethren, and them that would he forbiddeth and
casteth them out of the church."
The main
characteristic of Diotrephes is that he "loveth to have the preeminence
among them." Brother Guy N. Woods, in his commentary on the New
Testament epistles, wrote, "The word 'preeminence,' (philoproteuon,
present active participle,) is derived from philoprotos, a fondness for
being first; and is, alas, a disposition too often observable in our
ranks today. The spirit manifested by this man Diotrephes is wholly
foreign to the New Testament and opposed to the teaching of the Lord
himself. All self-serving and personal aggrandizement must be eschewed
and avoided if we would measure to the standard of primitive
Christianity" (A Commentary On The New Testament Epistles, Vol. VII, p.
363).
It was the love
for preeminence which led to the formation of the Roman Catholic Church.
This attitude is prevalent in the Lord's church and is still the cause
of much dissension. The predominant characteristic of those who act like
Diotrephes is still the love for preeminence. They want their will to be
exalted above all others and woe be to anyone who would dare question
their decision on anything.
Diotrephes may
have felt that the apostle John would have been more greatly honored by
the church than himself. His pride would not stand for that to happen.
Those, who act like Diotrephes, are inflated with pride. This pride will
lead to their spiritual destruction (Prov. 16:18). Pride keeps
them from seeing their faults or listening to someone who disagrees with
them. It keeps them from asking for forgiveness unless asking for
forgiveness helps keep them in power. It causes them to be jealous of
another's ability. If they begin to suspect that someone else is
beginning to be highly esteemed by the congregation, then they feel
compelled to undermine his reputation. They view anyone, who has
leadership ability and does his own thinking, as a rival. What great
harm this does to the Lord's church! What a great victory for Satan!
Those with the
disposition of Diotrephes will split the local congregation if they
don't get their way. They will hold grudges. They will lie over and over
again. They will claim they have been misunderstood. They will meet
privately with brethren to try and persuade them to join their side.
What strife and turmoil they cause. Weak brethren fall by the "way-side.
" Some brethren, who were once strong in the faith, may become less
active in the Lord's service.
I have met
"Diotrephes" in several congregations and the meetings have not been
pleasant. He is not always easy to identify when you first meet him,
because he wears other names and disguises his true attitude. He can
smile sweetly and do good deeds. He can be very charming until opposed.
If he is opposed by someone who has very little influence in the
congregation, he may choose to ignore such a one. However, if he is
opposed by someone who has some influence, then that one will be
severely rebuked by him "with malicious words" (KJV), usually when no
one else is around. If the opposition continues, then "Diotrephes" will
rebuke him publicly and endeavor to cast him "out of the church."
I have found this
attitude demonstrated in elders, preachers, and occasionally in other
members. It is hard for many to take a position of authority without it
going to their head. Because of this human weakness, God gave the
qualification of "not self-willed" as a trait which must be possessed by
a man who is appointed an elder (Tit. 1:7). The "Diotrephes"
person is, also, "contentious" and usually "soon angry" (1 Tim. 3:3;
Tit. 1:7). We often pay little attention to these qualifications,
but spend considerable amount of time discussing whether a man must have
one or two children to be qualified. It is extremely difficult to remove
"Diotrephes" after he has become an elder. When he takes over the
congregation and exalts himself as the head of the church, then the
church ceases to belong to the Lord, for it belongs to him. The brethren
become subject to him. Brethren, how can you stand by idly and permit
this evil situation to go on? Where is your courage?
Peter said that
elders are not to be tending the flock of God by ". . . lording it over
the charge allotted to you, but making yourselves ensamples to the
flock" (1 Pet. 5:2,3). In the commentary already mentioned in
this article, I found this statement, "The words 'lording it over' (from
katakurieuo, to rule over others high-handedly and autocratically)
suggests an arrogant, domineering spirit, and is here positively
forbidden to those who would serve acceptably as elders or bishops"
(Ibid., p. 125). Elders should be an "ample to the brethren in humility.
God will resist all with the attitude of Diotrephes (1 Pet. 5:5,6).
No one should ever be made an elder if he has a love for power. Beware
of men who campaign for the eldership.
If you choose to
reveal the true identity of "Diotrephes " be prepared for a bitter
struggle. He will strongly resent being called "Diotrophes" even though
he acts just like the Diotrephes John knew. Be prepared, also, to stand
alone. Some brethren may sing about defending the cause of Christ, but
really want no part of a battle even though the Lord's church is being
torn asunder. Paul told Timothy, "Fight the good fight of faith. . . "
(1 Tim. 6:12). Too many are keeping their spiritual sword in its
sheath and not taking it out for use. Are you doing this or are you
closing your eyes and saying, "I see no evil"?
I believe the
Lord must find it a great abomination for someone to try to usurp His
authority! This is an awful sin! How can we expect to find favor in the
eyes of the Lord when we have dethroned Him and exalted ourselves in His
place? We must remember that He has all authority and we are His bond
servants. We are His sheep. We must humbly obey Him in all things. Let
us greatly rejoice that we can serve in His kingdom and He will be our
Shepherd! Let elders remember that they are shepherds serving under the
chief Shepherd (1 Pet. 5:4).
I believe the
greatest need, in the Lord's church today, is qualified elders. God, in
His matchless wisdom, made elders to be overseers of the flock. He gave
qualifications for men to meet who seek the office of an elder (1
Tim. 3; Tit. 1). Those, who fulfill these qualifications and are
appointed elders, are a blessing to the cause of Christ. Let us "esteem
them highly in love for their work's sake" (1 Thess. 5:13). There
is no greater work than that of an elder. It is a work which demands
tremendous sacrifice, energy, time and wisdom. Elders, do your work well
for you will give an account to the Lord of lords (Heb. 13:17).
Preachers,
proclaim faithfully the glorious gospel of Christ. Proclaim it in love.
Exalt Christ, but crucify self (Gal. 2:20). Preach to please
Christ, not men (Gal. 1:10).
Any of us may
possess the attitude of Diotrephes. We are all capable of putting off
humility and putting on pride. If we are guilty of this, we cause the
Lord to weep and Satan to rejoice. If you have this attitude, repent
with bitter tears at once. Call upon God to forgive you. Be very
determined that this diabolical attitude will never again dwell in your
heart.
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