Those who are frequently
"misunderstood"
are also those who frequently
misrepresent.
This is a principle that is taught in the scriptures
(1 Tim. 6:3-5; 2
Tim. 3:6-7; 4:1-5; Tit. 1:10-13) and observed in the real world.
It is the result of a breakdown of rational thinking more than simply a
deterioration of communication skills. It is the fruit of subjectivism.
Words are assumed not to actually signify anything in these days of
relativism. As a result men feel free to construe the words of others in
any way they choose. They are frustrated when others attach fixed
meanings to their own words. These are two sides of the same coin.
In
"the old days" two men would approach a question or a problem with
something in common. They both believed that truth existed and they
usually believed that the truth they were seeking could be found. They
may have differed widely concerning just what the truth was, but they
both believed it was out there, independent of what they chose to think.
They both disputed about the evidence with the mutual hope of finding
the truth. Today, many in our culture have been "educated"
(propagandized may be more accurate) to believe that all truth is
relative. When we who yet know that truth exists and can be found
attempt to speak with those who have lost this awareness we are simply
not on the same page. When we present evidence for the existence of God,
the inspiration of the Bible, the truthfulness of specific Bible
doctrines, and the rightness and wrongness of certain human actions, we
are met with befuddled looks by those who stand on no foundation and
believe that none exists. While we love those who are thus adrift
without anchor or rudder we are often frustrated in our attempts to find
some "common ground" that will serve as a basis for study and
communication.
When a subjectivist says that, "You are a dirty, stinking skunk!" he may
appear shocked that you did not construe his words to mean that, "You
are an immaculate, charming sweetheart." In his mind you are responsible
for knowing what he meant and that what he meant was not definite and
rigid. You are guilty of unfair judging when you take his words to have
a discoverable design. With him, meanings are flexible rather than
fixed. This can be frustrating when we are on the receiving end of
"communication" with a subjectivist, but it is much more bearable than
when we are on the sending end.
The
subjectivist feels free to take your words to mean anything he chooses
and to tell others what he has "perceived" you to say. When you say,
"Please ask any questions that you may have," he feels perfectly free to
tell others that you have said, "Do not ask any questions because I am
not willing to answer them!" When you say, "Please make the best
possible argument for the thing you believe," he broadcasts that you
have said, "Shut up! You're wrong!" These are examples drawn from actual
experience.
We
have heard enough straw men quoted by subjectivists to supply the need
of every corn field in the world. While we might as well give up trying
to convince the subjectivists, we need to call them to account for the
sake of those who hear their claims. We have been told that "nothing can
be questioned in churches of Christ." When we ask what question they are
not permitted to ask, they are at a complete loss. They have no real
response because we are delighted to have questions. A few have revealed
their actual mentalities by saying, "But they claim to have the
answers!"
And
this is the problem for the subjectivist:
"answers!" He
hates all things presented as absolute facts. He repudiates the very
idea of undeniable truths. He paints the whole realm of ideas gray so he
can select what he chooses from the whole to color either black or white
at will. He cannot maneuver well in an environment with fixed boundaries
and immovable obstacles. There he looses his freedom to manipulate,
exploit, negotiate, and orchestrate. The Bible does not present a
problem for the subjectivist because of what it specifically teaches.
His problem with the Bible is that it specifically teaches. His problem
with the church and her teachers is not really
what is
taught. His problem is
that specific
things are taught as inflexible truth. His battle is not really with the
specific doctrines that he seems to attack. It is with the notion that
specific doctrines can be settled once and for all. This places him
perpetually at odds with God's people who are always prepared "to
contend earnestly for the faith which was once for all delivered unto
the saints" (Jude
3).
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